Constructive Criticism? (Part 1)

images-1Constructive criticism.

Sounds like an oxi-moron, huh?  We think of construction as positive.  Criticism as negative.  We normally think of construction as building or putting together.  But Webster’s 1828 Dictionary also includes this definition:

To interpret or understand.

And “constructive” is defined as “not directly expressed but inferred.”

OK.  Still with me?  Good.  “Criticism” is defined as “the art of of judging with propriety of the beauties and faults of a performance” or “the act of judging on the merit of a performance.”  A “critique” is the “science of criticism; standard or rules of judging of the merit of performances.”  Pretty clear so far.

Putting the two together, then, we can surmise that constructive criticism is a judgment made about the merits, beauties or faults, of a performance that is expressed in such a way that the criticized can infer the conclusion.  In other words, the person being critiqued will not feel personally attacked or directly assaulted when encountering a skilled critic.  Rather, he or she would hear a series of feedback statements of the best things, and things for potential improvement, and be able to easily discern the best way to continue pursuing excellence in the craft.

But get real.  Is this even possible?  Is it possible in the Church?

Well, I need to be the first to confess my sinful blunders when it comes to offering genuine constructive criticism.  I have made people feel beat down and discouraged when I know in my heart I actually meant to do just the opposite!  And a few times, I have even sat around and just flat out belly-ached and threw little fits about something in the Church I didn’t like, didn’t prefer, didn’t want, or wanted to see changed.  Sadly, I have even done this in the presence of other church members.  I’m a horrible sinner in this area, but God is showing Himself to be a perfectly patient Redeemer and Teacher.  I speak on this not from a position of “arrived” but rather “just pulling out of the station.”  All aboard!

Do all things without grumbling or disputing (Phil 2:14).

Well, given that Christians are told to admonish and rebuke and encourage one another (Rom 15:14; 1 Thess 5:14; 2 Tim 4:2), and also commanded to “do all things without grumbling or disputing,” we must conclude that constructive criticism is indeed possible.  Like everything in the Christian life, it’s possible only by the power, presence and grace of the Spirit of the Living Christ in us.  But, nevertheless, possible.

It’s very significant that the verse above in Philippians 2 flows directly out of one of the most beloved passages on the condescension of Jesus who laid aside His Divine prerogatives to become an obedient man, even to the point of death on the cross.  It is because of our Great Savior’s atoning sacrifice for our sins that we are then told to “work out your own salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who is at work in you to work for His good pleasure.”  There’s both the motive (His loving humiliation and sacrifice) and the engine (God at work in us making us like Christ) of the command: “Do all things without grumbling.”

I find it compelling and convicting that the very first way the Holy Spirit through Paul fleshes out what it means to “work out your own salvation with fear and trembling” is to exhort us never to grumble.  Never.

Do all things without grumbling or disputing.

All things?  Yes.  All.  Without grumbling?  Murmuring?  Complaining?  Arguing?  Disputing?  Belly-aching?  Yes.  Without all these attitudes and behaviors.

Theologically and/or doctrinally, I get how constructive criticism is possible.  Why then have I managed to do so poorly at it?  Surely I’m not the only one still wondering how this all works out in practice?!  If we are trying to judge how certain ministries in the Church might be improved, how can we possibly express it without falling into the trap of grumbling?  How do we practically avoid this sin against God?  

The next blog post will seek to answer that very critical question.

Pun intended.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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D-Day for the Greatest

U.S. boxing great Muhammad Ali poses during the Crystal Award ceremony at the World Economic Forum (WEF) in Davos, Switzerland January 28, 2006. REUTERS/Andreas Meier/File Photo

U.S. boxing great Muhammad Ali poses during the Crystal Award ceremony at the World Economic Forum (WEF) in Davos, Switzerland January 28, 2006. REUTERS/Andreas Meier/File Photo

The man who called himself “the Greatest” is dead.

The Louisville Lip who used to float like a butterfly and sting like a bee was reduced to frailty and near inability to even speak in his final decades.  Like every man before him.  Ashes to ashes.  Dust to dust.

I never admired Muhammad Ali.  While his athletic prowess was world-class, I never bragged on him or admired him or thought much of him at all.  Maybe it’s because my childhood memories are mostly 1980s, when Larry Holmes was the undisputed champ.  But mostly it’s because my Dad, my earthly hero, told me Muhammad Ali was a coward not worth admiring.

My Dad, you see, was drafted in 1966.  Keep in mind Dad was a junior in college, was married, and was already intending to pursue pastoral ministry.  He could have easily pulled one of those “cards” to avoid military service.  He knew plenty of men who did pull those cards!

But not my Dad.  Not only did he do his duty, he enlisted in the United States Marine Corps because he figured if he was going to go to Vietnam (a given in those days), he might as well go with the best!  And go he did.  Two tours in Vietnam.  Four years of active duty service total.  Battlefield promoted to Sergeant.  Winner of the South Vietnamese Cross of Gallantry (the second highest medal for that government, if memory serves me).  My sister was not yet 1 year old when Dad left for ‘Nam.  Call me crazy, but in my book, this is what heroes are made of.

“Somebody died in his place.  Somebody’s son died in the place of that coward.”  

That was Dad’s assessment of “The Greatest.”  It has been amazing to me how in the media aftermath of Ali’s death, no one has mentioned the almost comical irony of Cassius Clay conveniently changing his name and his religion to avoid going into a real war.  With real bullets.  With real heroes who bled and died by the tens of thousands.  Sacrificed themselves for others, for a cause greater than themselves.  I mean, come on, does anyone out there not see the laughable irony of an “Islamic conscientious objector”?  Could you imagine someone trying to pull that card today?

I served for over five years in the Marine Corps alongside American Muslims.  In no way do I mean to belittle them or their religion.  The Marines I served with who were practicing Muslims trained hard and deployed, leaving family behind, and were ready to sacrifice for America just like me.  And just like my Dad did 45 years ago.  But that’s precisely my point – they would not have even considered it an option to “opt out due to religion.”  And frankly, I am not sure any man should be permitted to do so.  It has always gotten under my skin that Muhammad Ali got filthy rich from a country he was not even willing to serve in the trenches.  All the benefits with no sacrifice.

Almost sounds like the new motto of America, huh?!

Well, perhaps you’ll excuse this rant.  Perhaps not.  But one thing I can assure you of, I do not think Muhammad Ali was the greatest.  Not even close.  I am sad for his family.  But even sadder for him.  He spent his adult life in arrogance and defiance of the one true God.  He died, as far as anyone knows, believing that the Man who was truly The Greatest – Jesus the Christ – would one bow His knee to Muhammad the prophet of Islam.

Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.  For this reason God has highly exalted Him, and bestowed on Him a name which is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee will bow, of those in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and that every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord to the glory of God the Father (Phil 2:8-11).

Turns out Dad was right.  Somebody’s son no doubt did die in the jungles of Vietnam in the place of the Louisville Lip.  But even more critically for all of us to grasp is that God’s Holy Son, the Divine-Man Jesus, died in place of all His sinful people who would cry out to Him for forgiveness.  D-day is coming for us all.  Bow to Jesus today and you will know the joy and soul deep peace that no religion of human merits / works can ever truly give!  Islam is a religion of self-salvation, and a very uncertain one at that.  But no man, not even one we called “the greatest,” can save himself from his sins.  That’s why we call Jesus . . . Savior.  

One can’t help but wonder what might have been had Ali submitted his life and his prideful lips to the Lord Christ. Surely nobody would have been able to get him to shut up about the love and grace of King Jesus!  But it was not to be.  His death is sad.  And thousands more are dying all around us on their way to the same Christ-less hell.

O Lord Jesus. help us start boasting more of You and Your cross!  And help us guard carefully who we extol as a hero.  Amen.  

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Stephen Cox - Bottom line is this, he like all called great by the world died in his sin, and as you pointed out was full of pride and self promotion, and was no hero in many peoples eyes for not answering the call of duty as a citizen. Hind sight shows Vietnam to be a huge blunder for the Politicians. But our soldiers for the greater part did their duty honorablly at at great cost like always. Christ alone deserves such great praise for He unlike this man is the Greatest man ever to walk in our midst.

Ellen McWhorter Stone - I’m glad to see my brother speaking out on this issue because I certainly have been. Amen!!

Enjoying Life

DSCN6961So often the posts on this blog tackle very serious matters.  Even life or death matters.  Spiritual matters that may well impact our eternities.

It is my calling from God to preach His Word, undiluted and in all its fullness and glory.  It’s serious business!

But for those who may only get their impressions of me from this blog, or even from my sermons, I want you to know I actually do enjoy life.  At least most days I do – ha ha!

God has blessed me beyond measure with the most amazing best friend and wife a man could ever want.  And to our union, God has gifted us with two simply wonderful daughters.  Most days, our home is filled with laughter and silliness.  Granted, like all sinners in need of Jesus, we have our “moments.”  But all in all I am very happy when I’m hanging with my girls!  Blessed.

Recently, my youngest daughter and I enjoyed an amazing day out turkey hunting.  Now, to be sure, the first 5 hours of that hunt were spent in a pop-up blind.  By 11 am it was getting hot and uncomfortable.  We had only seen a few hens, and no gobblers.  But just as we were packing up to leave, things got crazy in a hurry!

Long story short we heard a distant gobble, which set into motion a mad scramble for us to get set up in a tree line to intercept him and/or call him toward us.  The picture accompanying this blog entry shows the end result!

Blessed.  In the right place at the right time.  My daughter made an incredible shot on a trotting gobbler, and then exclaimed “Thank you Jesus!”  It was a back-slapping moment, until I realized the other tom was still just standing in the field confused.  So I went ahead and filled my tag too!

Fun, fun, fun!  Blessed.  Not everything in life is deadly serious (well, I suppose our hunt was deadly on these two toms, but you get my drift).  God has given us so many little pleasures, hasn’t He?  I have often said that so long as I have Jesus, every other good in this life is just icing on the cake.  But oh, how my Savior seems to just keep layering the icing on that cake!

So, dear Christian, take some time soon to enjoy some of that Divine icing.  Our God is so good, even on our worst day.  We, dear chosen ones of God, are blessed.  Let’s not neglect to praise the Lord even for the “little” graces He lavishes on us in this life.

I know that there is nothing better for them than to rejoice and to do good in one’s lifetime; moreover, that every man who eats and drinks sees good in all his labor – is the the gift of God” (Eccl 3:12-13).

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Of Drafts, Bathrooms, the UFC and Feminism

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Recently 1.5 million people signed a boycott of Target when it became public knowledge that the retail chain’s bathroom policy is essentially “anything goes.”

I signed it.  I encouraged others to do likewise.  But is this over-reacting?  Is the right of a citizen to use whatever bathroom or locker room he or she feels like using really worth making such a fuss over?

Well, only if you believe women and children are worth protecting.  Only if you believe God created men to protect women and children at all costs.  Only if you believe absolute truth exists and allowing a person to live in some kind of “alternate reality” (i.e., a lie) is actually not a loving, kind and commendable thing to do.  Only if you believe relativism leads to utter chaos and lawlessness in a society.

So, yeah, count me in as one of those who thinks this is a war worth fighting!

Some of us weirdo Bible-believing, Christ-exalting preachers actually predicted this very kind of thing after the SCOTUS put themselves in the place of God and redefined marriage.  Once that floodgate was down, look out America!  We have not seen anything yet.

And so already we are seeing absurd “laws” passed in states allowing a man with male genitalia to freely expose himself to my daughters in a public restroom!  Sexual predators are notoriously crafty and are 98% male.  Are we actually insane enough to think this will in no way backfire?  And, the reverse is also true.  A woman with female genitalia can now walk in and watch me urinate, and expose herself to me and any other men in that locker room or restroom.  Do we really need PhD scientists to tell us this might not be wise?  Are we living in that much denial about basic human nature?

Already we are seeing Congress begin to push for forcing our daughters to register with the selective service.  I suspect if this ever passes, assuming they do not offer a “conscientious objector clause,” I and many other Christian men will find ourselves on the wrong side of the law.  They may need bigger jails, or they may need to be prepared to draft all us 40-something Dads who will go fight in our daughters’ places!  Funny, I just read Judges 4-5 with my daughters this morning where we noted God mocks Balak for being such a coward that he insisted a woman go into battle with him.  But this is where a misunderstanding of true “equality” lands us.

We have become a society that wildly celebrates women bashing one another’s faces to bloody bits.  I’m not even sure we should celebrate men doing this, much less make a cultural icon out of Ronda Rousy.  But I guess Ronda is old hat now, since she was defeated by “The Preacher’s Daughter” Holly Holm.  And her pastor Dad was in the ring with her celebrating her violent victory over a fellow bearer of God’s holy image.  If the church has so lost its way in the matter of true womanhood, America is hopeless.

And let’s not forget that Fallon Fox, a biological man who self-identifies as a woman, recently was allowed to enter the cage to fight a biological woman (who happened to be an outspoken lesbian) named Tamikka Brents.  In less than 3 minutes, Fox fractured Brents’ orbital, gave her multiple concussions, and probably ended her career as a fighter.  One blogger / commentator hit the nail on the head when he wrote, “On Saturday September 13, 2014 in a ‘cage’ in the Springfield, Illinois Convention Center, a crowd gathered to watch something that happens thousands of times a day worldwide: a man battered a woman” (https://gendertrender.wordpress.com/2014/09/18/fallon-fox-why-hormones-dont-make-a-woman/).

Turns out feminism just cannot seem to get the “man” out of men, no matter how hard it tries.  This is all a sickening project, America.  Please wake up from your relativistic slumber!  If science was supposed to save us from ourselves, it’s failing miserably!  Interesting, isn’t it, how we place so much faith in “science” in matters that are actually not even observable (such as the origins of life and age of the earth), and yet reject clear, observable science in other matters (such as biological maleness and femaleness).

God save us!  For only You can!  Help us point all people to the God-man, the Man of all men, Christ Jesus.  Jesus took the wrath reserved for us due to our insistence on being our own gods, due to our insistence on defining ourselves however we want.  That’s what happened on the cross for all whom God would call to Himself and who would therefore call out to Him for redeeming mercy!  Is there hope for men, women, boys, girls, even those who are totally confused about who and what they are?

Yes!  His name is Jesus.  In Him, women find their true identity as women, and men find their true identity as men.  Want to read some amazing stories of the life transforming power of Jesus, even among the LGBT community?  Check out Brooklyn Tabernacle.  (www.brooklyntabernacle.org).

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Unchained!

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And he [Paul] stayed two full years in his own rented quarters and was welcoming all who came to him, preaching the kingdom of God and teaching concerning the Lord Jesus Christ with all openness, unhindered” (Acts 28:30-31).

Thus concludes the Book of Acts.

Yesterday I preached the final sermon in our 18 month journey through the amazing history book of the early church.  Our passage was Acts 28:17-31.  We saw Five themes in the passage that actually serve as an excellent summary of the whole Book.

  1. The power of prayer.
  2. True fellowship.
  3. Human response to the Gospel and God’s sovereignty in it.
  4. The primacy of preaching.
  5. Jesus is the Savior and Fulfillment of the Old Testament.

It is very tempting, if we’re not careful, to get caught up in the dynamic characters of the early church.  Peter and John.  Phillip.  And then there’s Paul.  The last fifteen chapters of Acts chronicle Paul’s missionary adventures.  And no doubt Paul was an amazing man of God.  But that’s just it – he was only amazing because of God!  It’s tempting to make too much of Peter or Paul.  It’s our natural inclination to read Acts as if Paul is the hero or main character.

That’s why we focused our attention yesterday upon the grand truth that It’s all God’s Show, and God’s Show must Go On!  

The Holy Spirit would not allow Luke to end the Book of Acts talking about Paul’s amazing life or martyrdom.  No!  It’s not about Paul.  Rather, it’s about the Kingdom of God and His Christ!  Oh, how we need to embrace this truth in our own lives.  Our culture programs us to be so very self-centered.  So me-driven.  Oh how we need heavy doses of the Bible’s perspective.  God help us center our lives on You!

The last word of the Greek text of Acts is akolutos.  Translated in the NASB “unhindered.”  I like “unchained!”

What is unchained?  Paul?  No!  Paul’s literally in chains at the end of Acts.  It’s the gospel of the kingdom that’s unchained.  It’s the gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ that’s unhindered.  God’s Gospel cannot be stopped!  We called the whole sermon series in Acts “The Unstoppable Church.”  But that’s only true so long as the church stays true to the Gospel Message that Holy God saves and forgives sinners only by the righteous life, the substitutionary death and the powerful resurrection of His Son, the Lord Jesus Christ.

May we be given grace to renounce our selves and turn from our sins and trust wholly in Jesus alone.  May God’s Gospel truly be unleashed among us.  May we truly be able to say with Martin Luther:

“Let goods and kindred go, this mortal life also, the body they may kill, God’s truth abideth still, His kingdom is forever!”

The Book about the birth of the Church ends with its powerhouse Apostle in chains and the gospel unchained.

Think about it.

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